生活总是以各种方式教你成长，有些路走过了才知道崎岖，有些人错过了才知道珍惜……人生为什么总是有太多的遗憾？是因为你心智不成熟，不懂人情世故。凤凰卫视主持人窦文涛说："在这个江湖里头混吧，你总得通晓人情世故，什么话能说，什么话不能说，什么话得这么说，什么话得那么说。不通人情世故，恐怕连活下去都有困难。"著名国学大师南怀瑾对于"人情世故"的理解则有着更深刻的寓意："不是简单的圆滑处世，不是假意的虚伪逢迎，不是单纯地屈服于现实，而是真正懂得生活的意义，安详地走完自己的人生。" 在通往幸福的路上，年轻只是临时的王牌，脸蛋儿只是暂时的资本，通晓人情世故才是永恒的法宝。有些事，年轻的时候不懂得。当懂得的时候已悔之晚矣；有些事，有机会去做的时候没有去做，而当想去做的时候已没有机会。 不管你是软妹子，还是女汉子，都不要等到尝尽人间冷暖，才想起去学习人情世故。一个聪明的女人，必定是通晓人情世故的高手。她知道什么时候该退让，什么时候该表现，既不会锋芒毕露，也不泯于众人；她不会字字虚言，也不会全抛一片心。她会利用社会上现实存在的人之常情，在最不利的情势下，达到最圆满的效果。 （ Life always teaches you to grow in a variety of ways, you may know the rough road only after you walked through; someone just know to cherish only after missed……Why does life always have too many regrets? It is because your mind is not mature, and you do not understand the traditional code of conduct. Dou Wentao, a host of Phoenix TV said: “living in this arena, you have to know the world, know what words can say or not, as well as the way you talk. If you do not know the world, maybe you have difficulties in surviving. Understanding of Nan Huaijin, the famous master of Chinese literature on “traditional code of conduct” has more profound meaning: “it is not a simple sophisticated, not hypocritical ingratiating, not simply succumb to reality, but to truly understand the meaning of life, and quietly go through their own life”. On the road to happiness, youth is just temporary ace, and face is just a temporary capital, while knowledge of traditional code of conduct is the eternal magic weapon. There are some things that are not understood when you are young. It is too late to regret when you understand; some things were not done when you had chance, while you would have no change to do when you want. No matter you are a girly girl or a tough girl, should learn the traditional code of conduct before you experience the well-being of the world. A clever woman, must be a master familiar with the traditional code of conduct. She knows when to concede and when to show, and will neither show her ability to the full extent, nor end up lost in the masses; she will neither empty words, nor devote her whole heart. She will use the human nature actually existing in the society to achieve the most satisfactory results under the most unfavorable conditions. )