Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.

Book Preview: #1 Blame is a powerful motivator. It is one of the most common forms of motivation used by leaders, parents, politicians, and clergy. When things don't go the way we want them to go, the default setting for most of us is to place blame and find fault.

#2 Blame, shame, and guilt are all products of toxic fear. When things don't go the way we think they should, our natural response is to become anxious. We then blame others or ourselves to keep our sense of identity intact.

#3 Taking full responsibility is the first commitment, and it is radical. It is based on a fundamental belief that there is a way the world should be and a way it shouldn't be. But in reality, the world just shows up the way it shows up.

#4 The first step in taking responsibility is to shift from believing the world should be a particular way to believing that the world just shows up. Second, we need to shift from rigidity, close-mindedness, and self-righteousness to curiosity, learning, and wonder.